To get where you want to be in life and to become who you’ve always wanted to be you first need to know exactly what you want. As well as, how you want to feel, how you want to act, and how you’re going to get there.

Taking time to step back and evaluate your life and current situation, will enable you to reconnect with your truest self. This is crucial for your self-development journey and finally embodying the traits you’ve always wanted.

We often become so engrossed in our present life circumstances that we occasionally lose sight of our true essence and our desires for ourselves and our lives. Regardless of our current situation and how distant that ideal may seem, we have the power to become whoever we wish to be.

To assist you in this journey, I’ve created some powerful journaling questions for you to figure out who you want to be and how you’re going to obtain all the qualities you desire.

So, find yourself a comfortable spot where you won’t be distracted. Sit down with your journal or a piece of paper and a pen, dedicating approximately 30 minutes to answering the following questions. Ensure honest and heartfelt responses. This exercise will help you to become who you’ve always wanted to be and unlock your full potential in life.

Who Do I Admire?

Consider the people that you admire in your life; they could be family members, friends, colleagues, or celebrities. Ensure that they are uplifting and possess positive traits in their personality. These may include career success, physical health, confidence, self-control, ambition, self-esteem, or openness.

Next, write down whoever comes to mind that embody these qualities that you desire to have yourself.

What Do I Like About Them and Why?

Consider the traits these people possess that you appreciate and admire. Write down anything that comes to mind.

Perhaps they always remain true to themselves and aren’t concerned with other people’s opinions. Or maybe they started from humble beginnings and created a profitable and successful business. It could be that they exude kindness and generosity, etc.

Next, reflect on why you admire these qualities in them. You might note reasons such as their commitment to living life to the fullest, their ability to manage emotions effectively, their pursuit of dreams, and they get to spend their days doing what they love, etc.

In A Perfect World, Who Would I Be?

To embark on your journey towards living your envisioned future and embodying your ideal self, you must clarify the person you aspire to become. You may discover that many of the qualities and traits you’ve identified overlap with those listed in questions 1 and 2.

Envision yourself and your life as if all your desires were attainable, and there were no obstacles in your way. Who would you become?

List aspects related to your career, relationships, goals, and how you would allocate your time.

What actions would you take if your options were limitless?

Think expansively and boldly; don’t hesitate to dream big!

How Would I Feel?

If you could attain everything you desired in life and be whoever you wanted to be, how would you feel?

If you possessed all the qualities you wanted; such as confidence, success, kindness, drive, openness, and being enjoyable to be around, how would you feel?

Write down all the emotions that come to mind and see yourself as having all the qualities you want. When you’re writing down how it would make you feel when you become who you’ve always wanted, it will help to motivate you into creating that reality for yourself.

How Would I Act?

Next, think about how you would act if you had all the qualities you desire when you become who you’ve always wanted to be.

You may write things like; I’d be open and have amazing relationships with others, I would be myself and live life to the fullest, I wouldn’t let things get to me, I would be free to be myself and do anything I wanted, etc.

How Would I React to Challenges?

Think about possessing all the qualities you want and how you would react to challenges that were thrown your way if you were this person.

For instance, you may write things like; I wouldn’t allow other people’s negativity to get to me, I would rise above anything that is thrown my way, I would be graceful and calm, I would let things go over my head, etc.

How Would I Portray Myself to Others?

Similarly, how would you show up in the world? Would you add value to other people’s lives? Could you always remain positive and happy through challenging times? Will you show strength and not be afraid to be yourself? Would you be open and approachable? Will you be loyal and kind to others?

Furthermore, think about how you would want other people to see you and what you want to offer the world.

How Would I Interact with Others?

Next, envision your future self when you have become who you’ve always wanted to be. Think about how you would interact with people; would you be open, kind, understanding, loyal, loving, caring, and supportive?

Furthermore, contemplate how you would want your relationships with people to be?

How Would I Feel About Myself?

This is the most important question because the relationship that you have with yourself is the most important relationship that you will ever have.

Furthermore, reflect on how you would feel if you had all the qualities that you desire. You may write things like; content, strong, powerful, happy, fulfilled, confident, successful, calm, bliss, etc.

Moreover, envision yourself as having all the qualities you want and feel the emotions that you would feel and what you would think about yourself.

What Can I Do Today to Be This Person?

Next, think about what things you can do to be more like the version of yourself you want to become.

Think about all the things you’ve written down, how you want to feel and act, and then think of ways that you can start embodying those things today.

For instance, you may write things like; think before I react to things, let go of past resentments, practice being more confident, stop overthinking and stressing. Or, start my online business, set boundaries with people who make me feel bad, etc.

What New Habits Can I Adopt?

To get different outcomes, we need to do things differently from what we have done in the past. This will help you to become who you’ve always wanted be faster.

Additionally, use all your previous answers to motivate you and start making a plan of how you’re going to reach your goals and all the qualities you want to have.

For instance, you may write down actions such as joining the yoga class I’ve always wanted to try, signing up for a coaching session, starting to wake up earlier to work on my goals, and putting an end to negative self-talk. Or, spending less time watching TV and writing instead, taking up cycling again, stop comparing myself to others, attending a confidence seminar, etc.

What Do I Need to Let Go of From My Life?

Finally, think about anything that doesn’t make you feel good or doesn’t support you on your mission to be the best version of yourself who has all the qualities you desire. To become who you’ve always wanted, you need to leave behind the old self, negative traits and negative influences.

You might write actions such as distancing myself from people who aren’t good for me, letting go of old grudges and anger, and stopping binge eating to try and comfort myself. Or, stopping sleeping in, playing small, worrying about what other people think of me, etc.

“Be who you want to be, do what it takes to be that way, and in time, you will have what you want in life.”– Darren Johnson

Summary

All these answers will reveal what you truly desire for yourself and your life. Therefore, you shouldn’t live your life playing small and not experiencing the feelings you desire.

Instead, you can have and be anything you want in your life; all you have to do is believe it and take positive steps daily towards your goal and you will get there.

Moreover, think about how you want to live your life and how you want to feel daily and use this as your motivation to start making changes in your life. This will ensure that you become who you’ve always wanted to be.

Additionally, begin to embody the qualities you desire as if you already possess them, accelerating your journey toward achieving them. For instance, to boost confidence, uncross your arms, stand tall, walk confidently, and make eye contact.

Similarly, if you want to have thriving relationships with your partner and friends; make an effort, text and arrange a catch-up, plan a surprise meal for your partner, act confident and spice things up in the bedroom, visit your grandparents, send a random gift in the post, etc.

Ultimately, start embodying the traits that you want to possess now and just keep improving a little every day; before you know it you will have all the qualities you want and will live a happy and fulfilling life.

“The difference between who you are and who you want to be, is what you do.”– Bill Phillips

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