It’s so important to remember that you cannot change other people’s behaviour. You can’t change how they treat you and others. Changing other people is impossible. However, you can change your mindset and how you react to others. How people talk to you, act towards you, react to you and treat you, is always a reflection of how they view and feel about themselves and the world around them. When people treat you negatively and badly it has nothing to do with you personally. You need to remember that you deserve to be treated with love and respect always.

It says a lot more about the other person who is treating you badly than it does about yourself. However, you always have the choice to change the situation by removing yourself. Remember that you are worthy and deserve the best in life.

It’s easy to blame ourselves when the people around us aren’t treating us well. We often think we’re not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, cool enough, interesting enough, strong enough etc. However, the fact is that none of this is true. You shouldn’t let people with negative opinions of you affect your life.

Focus solely on yourself and your happiness and stop caring about what others think of you. You will realise that you have the power to control your life in every aspect.

You can remove yourself from negative situations. Walk away from the people who don’t treat you how you deserve to be treated. Ultimately, you are responsible for your life and your happiness and you shouldn’t settle for anything less than amazing.

Here are some vital things to remember if someone isn’t treating you how you want…

The Only Important Thing is How You View and Feel About Yourself

Don’t allow other people’s negativity and behaviour to affect how you feel about yourself. It’s hard when someone is constantly treating you badly or putting you down and you’re stuck in that negative cycle. However, we only get one shot at life. Therefore, you shouldn’t spend it being around people who think and talk badly of you.

People come and go in our lives constantly. So, it’s important to remember that you’re the only person who’s going to be there for you 100% of the time. Ensure you’re happy with yourself, your actions, and how you treat others. If you like how you speak to yourself and how you’re living your life, then other people’s opinions are irrelevant at the end of the day.

Changing Other People is Impossible

You may stay in a relationship or a friendship because you feel that you can change the other person. You hope that things will improve or they will change. However, you need to stop surrounding yourself with people who don’t value or respect you. If they treat you badly then the chances are this will never change.

People only change when they truly want to and you cannot change someone no matter how hard you try. You can focus all your time and energy on trying to make the other person happy or content but you ultimately have zero control over how they react or treat you.

Working on yourself and your happiness is fundamental to having positive relationships. When you love and value yourself you will attract people with the same mindset and not settle for anything less than you deserve.

It Says a Lot More About Them Than it Does You

If someone is treating you badly and not showing you love or respect then they clearly have their own issues and insecurities that they need to work on. When someone isn’t treating you well it often stems from their own emotional baggage and negativity.

People can take their issues out on others to belittle them and make them feel better about themselves because they are unhappy and don’t want to see other people being happy or successful.

It’s important to remember that if someone is treating you badly it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Everyone is dealing with their own insecurities and issues. However, when you project that onto others that says a lot more about your character than it does the other person. Always focus on yourself and remember that just because someone is treating you badly, it doesn’t mean it’s your fault or you deserve it.

Never Value Yourself on How Others Treat You

Don’t beat yourself up or blame yourself because someone isn’t treating you right. Changing other people isn’t an option in life. It’s important to remember your self-worth and that you’re the only person you need to make happy in your life. No one knows you as well as you know yourself. So, don’t let other people define who you are from their perspective of you. Never compare yourself to others and think that it’s your fault you’re being treated negatively because you’re not good enough in some way.

Start Surrounding Yourself With People Who Make You Feel Good

Everyone deserves to be happy and live a life they enjoy and love. We should never feel like we’re not good enough. Or, that we deserve to suffer and be miserable in our lives.

If you’re in a friendship group, relationship or circle of people who don’t make you feel good about yourself. Or, who don’t act how you want then start distancing yourself from them. Start choosing to be around people who make you feel good and who treat you well.

You always have the choice to change your life and who you surround yourself with. Find new circles or a new partner who respects you. Or, spend time on your own learning to love yourself and value yourself. It can be scary moving away from people. It’s easier to stay in the same place even if it’s not right for us because we are scared of being lonely. However, you need to accept that changing other people and their behaviour isn’t a choice but your mindset is.

But letting go of negative relationships and focusing on your happiness is vital to living the life you’ve always envisioned for yourself. It’s better to spend time with yourself, learning to appreciate yourself and grow than it is being stuck with people who put you down and make you feel bad about yourself.

Reconnect with old friends or family that you value, join new classes, sign up for a dating site etc. Don’t settle for anyone who treats you less than you deserve.

Changing Other People and Their Behaviour is Impossible but You Can Change How You React to it

Changing other people and how they view us, treat us, speak to us and value us, is impossible. However, we can decide to not let it get to us. If you change your mindset, you can honestly change your world and handle anything that life throws at you. You can learn to not let other people’s negativity affect you mentally and emotionally by learning to love yourself and know your self-worth.

Once you’re in a state of love towards yourself, then you won’t allow other people’s negative opinions or actions toward you to get to you. You will know what you’re worth and that your opinion of yourself is all that matters. It’s the best feeling in the world when something that would normally upset you or trigger you, has zero effect on you and you can move away from it calmly.

You have the power to change your thoughts, emotions and actions. However, changing other people isn’t possible. But, you should never allow anyone to make you feel bad about yourself because you deserve to be happy and content in your life.

“Some people can be mean and treat you poorly. Don’t take it personally. It says nothing about you but a lot about them.”– Unknown

Summary

No matter where you are on your self-development journey, you deserve to be treated with love and respect from everyone in your life, including yourself. Changing other people and their actions is impossible. You cannot change other people’s views of yourself or how they treat you because ultimately, we are all in control of ourselves and how we treat those around us. If someone isn’t treating you how you want then you owe it to yourself and your future happiness to take a step back and remember that you deserve the world.

Stop allowing yourself to settle for anything less than perfect. We only get one shot at life and we should spend it being happy and being surrounded by people who support, uplift and motivate us.

It’s not your fault if someone is treating you badly but you owe it to yourself and your future happiness to step away from them and start making your happiness the top priority in your life.

“People don’t treat you bad because you’re a bad person, they treat you bad because they have unresolved issues. Don’t ever let someone make you think that their bad behaviour is your fault.”– Unknown

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