There’s a common debate whether you should leave the past in the past or if you should reconnect with your past and the same goes for lost friendships. I think it’s important to reconnect with your friends from the past; as long as you didn’t end your relationship on bad terms. When you had a close friendship with someone then it’s important to try and make the effort to have them in your life.
It’s so easy to lose contact with people over time, from no fault of your own or theirs. We all have busy lives and countless things to be focusing on. However, weeks quickly turn into months and months into years. Before you know it you’ve lost contact with people who you never thought you’d go a week without speaking to before.
It’s a sad part of growing up and having extra responsibilities. Life gets in the way and you can lose friendships that once meant the world to you.
Here’s why it’s important to connect with your old friends…
They May be Wanting to Reconnect Themselves
You may be hesitant to get back in touch with an old friend in case they reject you, ignore you, or don’t want to talk to you anymore. Moreover, you may be thinking that you lost touch for a reason. Therefore, it’s better left alone rather than rocking the boat and venturing into the unknown. However, the thing is, they might well be thinking the same way and are scared of reaching out themselves in case of rejection.
They may be missing you just as much as you’re missing them but don’t know how to reach out themselves or if you’d want to hear from them. Therefore, you should bite the bullet and reach out yourself. You have nothing to lose and you may rebuild an amazing lifelong friendship.
You Were Friends for a Reason
Reconnecting with an old friend will help you see that life is too short and it’s important to make time for people in your life. You used to be close friends for a reason. Therefore, you will share countless memories and things in common with each other.
There will be things that only the two of you will remember, find funny, or be able to comfort each other with because you connect with people on different levels. You may not have realised how much you’ve missed their support, humour, guidance, or sense of fun in your life. Therefore, reconnecting with them could help fill a hole in your life.
Friendship is Important
Life can get in the way of old friendships and it’s so easy to get caught up with work, family life, current work colleagues, and your partner that you lose sight of how important old friendships can be. However, reconnecting with an old friend can give you a sense of comfort and relief that you may not have expected because they know you better than remember.
Friendships are really important in life and you don’t know what your old friends might have been going through in their lives. Making an effort and catching up with an old friend may mean more to them than you realise. Old, true friendships are hard to come by and should be cherished.
True Friendship is Hard to Come by
If you have lost a connection with an old friend due to being busy or lack of effort between the two of you then it’s important to start making an effort to rebuild your relationship with them.
True friends are hard to come by and they will always have your back and be there for you if you were true friends in the past. They will know you better than you know yourself. Therefore, they will help you to reconnect with parts of yourself you may have lost along the way.
You May Have Forgot How Important They Are to You
Time can make you forget a lot of things and a busy schedule can get in the way of things that are important to you. You may have forgotten how much they actually mean to you and how happy they used to make you feel.
It takes two people to keep any relationship alive. So, ask yourself if you’ve made enough effort to keep the friendship alive. If the answer is no, then reach out and see if you can start rebuilding a friendship with each other.
How to Reconnect and Rebuild Your Friendship
You may have decided that you want to connect with an old friend but are struggling with how to go about it.
Here are a few suggestions to start rebuilding your relationship with a lost friend…
- Find them on social media/mobile number/email etc and send them a message
- Send an old photo of you together to start a conversation
- Ask them to go for a coffee, drink, or lunch
- Send a photo of something new going on in your life
- Send them a Christmas/birthday card
- Arrange a catchup/do something you used to enjoy together
- Share old memories with each other
- Update them on your life and how it’s going
- Let go of old dramas if they’re not worth being upset over anymore
- Invite them to an event you’re going to or a life event of your own
“Old stories are like old friends. You have to visit them from time to time.”– George R.R. Martin
Summary
Connecting with old friends can make you feel at ease and start rebuilding a special connection with each other.
Old friends know things about our lives that new friends may not see. Therefore, they can help you to reconnect with parts of yourself that you may have lost and have forgotten how good they used to make you feel.
You have nothing to lose to try and rebuild a relationship with an old friend and you never know how close you may become again. Life’s too short to live with regrets and what if’s, so, reach out today and see where it takes you.
“The best mirror is an old friend.”– George Herbert
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